Last time when I was pregnant with my sixth baby I saw a different consultant who was friendly and listened to what I wanted. I wanted to have a home birth. He explained the risks involved and said they don't really like women who've had more than four babies to home birth but as he could see I was fit and healthy he left the decision up to me. In the end, with my sixth baby, I had my second home birth without any complications and without any pain relief, I had less bleeding than with any of my previous babies.
This time however the consultant wouldn't consider the possibility of me home birthing, I asked if I could use the birth centre which has a much more relaxed atmosphere than the delivery suite but she said no. She said my only choice was, when I go into labour, to go to the delivery suite, be hooked up to an IV, have an injection to get the placenta out quickly, and then be on a drip for at least four hours after the baby is born. To me this is all horrifying and makes me feel like a piece of meat on a production line.
Of course I realise that this is not my only choice. I know it's the only choice I have if I want to have a midwife present but I also know that I can go it alone. My only problem is that I will worry and panic that something will go wrong as a result of me not heeding medical advice. I'm a fit and healthy woman, having a perfectly healthy pregnancy, I really don't think there is any need for me to be treated like a catastrophe waiting to happen.
There aren't even any clear statistics that show a PPH is more likely the more babies you have. From the statistics I have seen you are more likely to have a PPH if you:
- are overweight
- are induced
- are having a caesarean
- have had a previous caesarean
- are suffering from pre-eclampsia
I know many women who have had seven or more babies and have continued to have home births. I don't know why in England, if you've had more than four babies you're treated like a freak when all you're really doing is exactly what nature has intended. Is it really right to be treated in such a way? It certainly doesn't feel right.
With my labours usually lasting about an hour and with us having the small problem of not having any transport, will I actually be able to make it to the hospital in time anyway? Perhaps all this worrying is unnecessary and all these decisions will be taken out of my hands.
Anyway, changing the subject completely...
This week I have my twenty week scan and we are all really excited to be finding out the gender of our baby. Right from when I very first found out I was pregnant I was convinced I was having a boy and still am so it will be interesting to see if I'm right!