Monday, 28 July 2014

Pregnancy diary: Week 19 - Baby 7

This week I went to see the consultant, I am classed as high risk because I've had a baby born at thirty weeks, a bad haemorrhage when I miscarried, and because this is my seventh baby.  I was really disappointed with my appointment, firstly she was an hour late and offered no apology so not a good start, secondly she wouldn't really answer any of my questions, thirdly she was not willing to compromise and lastly she couldn't be bothered to explain herself.

Last time when I was pregnant with my sixth baby I saw a different consultant who was friendly and listened to what I wanted.  I wanted to have a home birth.  He explained the risks involved and said they don't really like women who've had more than four babies to home birth but as he could see I was fit and healthy he left the decision up to me.  In the end, with my sixth baby, I had my second home birth without any complications and without any pain relief, I had less bleeding than with any of my previous babies.

This time however the consultant wouldn't consider the possibility of me home birthing, I asked if I could use the birth centre which has a much more relaxed atmosphere than the delivery suite but she said no.  She said my only choice was, when I go into labour, to go to the delivery suite, be hooked up to an IV, have an injection to get the placenta out quickly, and then be on a drip for at least four hours after the baby is born.  To me this is all horrifying and makes me feel like a piece of meat on a production line.

Of course I realise that this is not my only choice.  I know it's the only choice I have if I want to have a midwife present but I also know that I can go it alone.  My only problem is that I will worry and panic that something will go wrong as a result of me not heeding medical advice.  I'm a fit and healthy woman, having a perfectly healthy pregnancy, I really don't think there is any need for me to be treated like a catastrophe waiting to happen.

There aren't even any clear statistics that show a PPH is more likely the more babies you have.  From the statistics I have seen you are more likely to have a PPH if you:

  • are overweight 
  • are induced
  • are having a caesarean
  • have had a previous caesarean
  • are suffering from pre-eclampsia
I have not had any of the above apart from being induced 16 years ago.

I know many women who have had seven or more babies and have continued to have home births.  I don't know why in England, if you've had more than four babies you're treated like a freak when all you're really doing is exactly what nature has intended.  Is it really right to be treated in such a way?  It certainly doesn't feel right.

With my labours usually lasting about an hour and with us having the small problem of not having any transport, will I actually be able to make it to the hospital in time anyway?  Perhaps all this worrying is unnecessary and all these decisions will be taken out of my hands.

Anyway, changing the subject completely...
This week I have my twenty week scan and we are all really excited to be finding out the gender of our baby.  Right from when I very first found out I was pregnant I was convinced I was having a boy and still am so it will be interesting to see if I'm right!

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Sunday, 20 July 2014

Pregnancy diary: 18 weeks, baby 7

This pregnancy is going very well and I'm feeling so great, the weeks are now flying by as I'm keeping myself really busy.

I've uploaded a new video to my YouTube channel, Life of Mummy.  Thank you so much to everyone who's subscribed to my channel and has liked my videos.  Feel free to take a look at an update of my pregnancy over the past two weeks.

Saturday, 19 July 2014

Back to school, is it right?

For almost four years I have been home educating all but my eldest child but now that my second eldest child is eleven she has decided she would like to try senior school.  I've had mixed emotions about her decision, on the one hand I feel so proud that she's confident enough to want to try something new and meet lots of new people but on the other hand I would love to continue to wrap her up in cotton wool and mollycoddle her forever more.

Monday, 14 July 2014

Win Half a King by Joe Abercrombie - Giveaway

I am delighted to be able to share with you this great giveaway and a review by Honey Pie.  Half a King is a book aimed at teens.

Half A King by Joe Abercrombie is fab!

Saturday, 12 July 2014

Win The Fault in Our Stars by John Green - Giveaway

This is an excellent book about love, life and death.  The story takes you on quite a roller-coaster of emotions as you follow Hazel and Augustus' relationship, the two have cancer which has understandably given them a rather cynical outlook on life.

Thursday, 10 July 2014

A teenage son without ambition

My eldest child is now sixteen and a half, he's just finished his GCSEs and is awaiting the results.  Ed didn't revise at all for his GCSEs and doesn't seem concerned about the results, he normally receives A*s for all his work that he hasn't put any effort into which has allowed him to develop this laid back attitude.  Sometimes I feel annoyed and think he should be trying harder but mostly I'm pleased that he's able to have such an easy going life.

Ed on prom night